Recalibrate Your Confidence Meter


Here’s an unfortunate truth.

We hold ourselves to standards we would never impose on colleagues, friends or family.

By berating ourselves for mistakes, ruminating over missteps and discounting our victories…these behaviours take a toll on our confidence and brand image.

Your level of self-confidence determines what goals you’ll go after, how you carry yourself and even the personal brand you showcase for others to see.

If you are out of balance it’s time to recalibrate your internal confidence meter to reflect your true strengths.

Because that isn’t easy to do on your own, I want to give you a short exercise to get feedback that can help you.


First, ask a friend or colleague that is close to you and whose opinion you value, to answer a few questions about you.

(I must warn you, this takes courage.  But courageous acts often pave the way for tremendous breakthroughs in clarity and confidence.  So take a deep breath and take action now. )

Before you start, here are the ground rules:

  • You ask the question, then stay silent and listen.
  • You can only listen to the response – you may not justify, explain yourself or discount your friend’s comment.
  • You can ask for clarification if you don’t understand what your friend is sharing, but you cannot “push back” in any way.
  • You express your appreciation by saying ‘thank you’ after each answer.


Ready? Ask a friend or colleague these questions:

  1. What do you think is my greatest strength?
  2. When do you feel that I’m at my best?
  3. What do you wish I focused less on, for my sake?
  4. What do you think I could let go of?
  5. What do you think I could give myself more credit for or celebrate more?


Now, after this conversation, write yourself a letter.

Take all the information your friend gave you and transform the answers from the questions into first-person statements, like this:

  • My greatest strength is …
  • I’m at my best when I’m …

Keep going until you’ve completed all five.

Finally, date it, sign it with love to yourself, and put your letter where you can read it whenever you need a confidence boost.

Self-confidence depends on how you see yourself and if you feel you are living up to your ideals. And you’re much closer than you think.

Align yourself with what matters most to you. Live your brand fully expressed with intention and purpose to play bigger!

Are you interested in having a conversation to explore how you can define your personal brand and accelerate your growth as a leader, individually or as a team? Send an e-mail to book a complimentary 30-minute consultation.

Dorothy Lazovik

Dorothy is on a mission to shift the culture of organizations to people first! Supporting leaders in fulfilling their TO BE LIST to better deliver on their TO DO LIST. Doing the work impacts how leaders see themselves, the people they lead, the environment they create and the outcomes they achieve. Producing higher engagement, ownership and productivity. How would making a change like this elevate your business results?

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